Continuing the Energy Is Everything Series
This six-part series is rooted in one core truth: energy is the foundation of everything—your work, your relationships, your creativity, your health, and your sense of self.
In episode 167, we explored visibility wounds and the cost of hiding.
In episode 169, we turn toward the invisible drains—the micro-leaks happening even when you think you’re doing everything “right.”
This episode is for the woman who rests, takes breaks, and practices self-care—yet still feels depleted.
Meet Danielle Laura
Danielle Laura works with conscious leaders—healers, coaches, practitioners, and high-capacity women who feel deeply and give generously. Her background in healthcare as a nurse and clinical therapist gives her a unique lens on burnout, while her work in Human Design and energetics fills in the missing link many never learned to name.
For years, Danielle’s sensitivity to energy felt like a liability. She absorbed everyone else’s emotions, stress, and pain—until her body started sounding the alarm. Chronic exhaustion. Emotional overwhelm. Physical symptoms with no medical explanation.
Energetics didn’t just change her work.
It changed her relationship with herself.
When burnout isn’t about workload
One of the most important reframes in this conversation is that burnout isn’t always caused by doing too much.
Often, it’s caused by:
- being mentally present nowhere
- never fully resting—even on vacation
- living on adrenaline and urgency
- confusing productivity with purpose
Danielle names what many high achievers experience but rarely admit: even time off can be exhausting when your nervous system never shuts down.
If your mind always has 87 tabs open, rest doesn’t restore—it just pauses the chaos.
The hidden energy leak no one talks about
Perhaps the most surprising insight from this episode is this: self-care can still drain you if you’re not present for it.
Danielle explains how women often believe they’re refilling their energy—through workouts, massages, reading, or alone time—while their minds are replaying emails, conversations, and to-do lists.
The body is there.
The mind is not.
And without presence, the nervous system never receives the benefit.
Getting out of your head and back into your body
True energetic hygiene isn’t about adding more routines. It’s about returning to the body.
Danielle shares practical, accessible ways to create presence:
- movement that pulls you out of thought
- engaging the five senses
- journaling or meditation that quiets mental noise
- dancing for thirty seconds
- walking without multitasking
There’s no single “right” method. The key is choosing something that interrupts mental looping and brings you into direct experience.
Presence is the medicine.
Why multitasking is often avoidance
Ash and Danielle name something many women feel but rarely acknowledge: multitasking is often a way to avoid feeling what’s underneath.
When we stay busy, distracted, and mentally occupied, we don’t have to face fear, grief, or unmet desires. But avoidance is expensive. It leaks energy constantly.
Energetic hygiene begins when you’re willing to slow down long enough to notice what feels unsafe—and gently create safety instead of running from it.
Micro-shifts that rebuild nervous system safety
This episode emphasizes that regulation doesn’t come from drastic life overhauls. It comes from micro-moments.
A thirty-minute lunch break without a phone.
Five minutes of brushing your teeth with full awareness.
One walk without podcasts or messages.
Each small act sends your nervous system a new signal: it’s safe to rest.
Safety isn’t proven through logic.
It’s proven through repetition.
Human Design as an energetic roadmap
Danielle introduces Human Design as a practical framework for understanding your energy—not as a limitation, but as guidance.
Each type has a “not-self” theme that signals misalignment:
- Generators & Manifesting Generators: frustration
- Projectors: bitterness
- Manifestors: anger
- Reflectors: apathy
And each type also has a signature aligned state—like satisfaction or success—that shows you’re on the right track.
Rather than asking “What should I do?”
Human Design invites the question: How does my energy work best?
Boundaries, access, and energetic sovereignty
A powerful theme woven throughout this conversation is access.
Who—and what—has immediate access to your energy?
Notifications. Social media. Constant availability. Emotional absorption.
Danielle and Ash are clear: energetic boundaries aren’t about cutting people off. They’re about choosing what gets to influence your internal state.
True regulation often means closing unnecessary windows—not isolating, but protecting your nervous system from constant stimulation.
Knowing when you’re out of alignment
Danielle shares that for her, misalignment shows up as bitterness—a sign of overgiving and self-abandonment. Recognizing these signals early allows for quick course correction instead of full burnout cycles.
Misalignment isn’t failure.
It’s information.
The faster you listen, the less energy you lose.
The invitation
This episode isn’t asking you to do less—it’s asking you to be here.
Energetic hygiene is not another task.
It’s a relationship with presence, safety, and truth.
When you stop leaking energy through distraction, overgiving, and avoidance, something remarkable happens: you don’t need to chase vitality—it returns on its own.
Where to find Danielle Laura
- Website
- [Freebie] VIP Business Experience: Unlock Flow, Freedom & Wealth With Your Unique Human Design
- Podcast: The Light Leader Podcast
- Tiktok
- Substack
(Links available in the show notes)
xx, Ash
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